Meet Chandrika Chowdhary
your guide to Self Coaching Mom and the HEART Conversation Framework.
My Story
Before HEART
Before I became the founder of Self Coaching Mom™, a creator of HEART Conversation framework, or a guide for thousands of mothers—I was just a mother, overwhelmed by her own reactions.
I didn’t plan to become a movement.
I simply wanted to be a better mom—but not in the Pinterest-perfect, meal-planned, gold-star kind of way.
I wanted to raise a child who felt loved, safe, seen, and strong—even when I wasn’t at my best.
But every evening after work, I found myself reacting: the tone I didn’t want to use, the look I regretted, the guilt I couldn’t shake.
I read parenting books. I journaled. I tried to “fix” myself.
But nothing stuck. Because the real patterns were invisible—until one moment cracked everything open…
In the middle of a mall, after a public diaper accident, I snapped at my son. And he, not even18 months old, looked up and softly asked:
“Mumma….Did I do something wrong?”
That wasn’t just his question.
It was my wake-up call.
That’s when I realised: This isn’t just about managing my child. This is about reprogramming what I’m unconsciously passing on.
Discovering Self Coaching
I turned to Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) to understand my mind, my emotions, and my reactions.
What I found was more than insight—it was a system of transformation.
I discovered that every emotion is data, every reaction is a signal, and that mothers need more than advice—they need access to their inner operator’s manual.
Self Coaching became my secret superpower.
I learned to shift my state before I entered the room.
To decode the beliefs behind behaviour.
To recognize that I was not reacting to my child—I was reacting from my own conditioning.
And most importantly, I saw that every moment of interaction was not just discipline or bonding.
It was installation – for life.
HEART ConversationTM Framework
Through years of coaching, modeling patterns, and working with thousands of families, one truth became clear:
Parenting isn’t about performance.
It’s about programming—beliefs, values, identity—installed one conversation at a time.
So I built a framework not for parenting perfection—but for precise influence.
The HEART ConversationTM Framework helps mothers:
–Harmonize Intentions (yours, your child’s, and the family’s)
–Empathize Deeply (beyond behaviour, into belief)
–Assert Authentically (with calm confidence)
–Respect Individuality (while shaping values)
–Thrive Together (because connection is the goal)
It’s not a script.
It’s a lens that transforms every conversation into a code of influence—conscious, connected, and identity-shaping.
The Self Coaching Mom™ Movement
I didn’t want to create a course.
I wanted to create a cultural shift.
Because Indian mothers are not short on love.
We’re short on tools. On mirrors. On legacy systems that serve us in the modern world.
Self Coaching Mom™ is becoming a home, a safe community for women who are not just raising children, but raising the future—without sacrificing themselves in the process.
We built a movement around this truth:
Mothers are not performing motherhood.
They are programming a mind, a future.
And that can be done unconsciously by default or intentionally by design.
My Mission
To equip one million Indian mothers to stop performing and start programming—
not with pressure, but with precision.
To help mothers move from emotional reaction to conscious influence, so they can raise children who feel secure, resilient, and deeply connected.
To create a new normal:
Where self-trust, emotional literacy, and identity shaping happen… not in therapy after damage is done, but through EVERYDAY CONVERSATIONS
by shifting the foundational culture of the family, building layered family relationships, emotional independence, and personal growth.
My Methodologies
HEART Framework
A 5-part lens that rewires how you speak, respond, and influence—by shifting from discipline and control to alignment, connection, and co-creation.
Backed by NLP, attachment theory, and developmental psychology, the HEART Framework allows mothers to:
Navigate tough moments without escalation
Install values and beliefs through micro-moments
Create deep, lasting bonds that shape the child’s sense of self
Self-Coaching Model
You are not stuck because you don’t know enough.
You’re stuck because your internal system isn’t aligned.
The Self-Coaching Model helps mothers:
Shift from chaos to clarity in minutes (not months)
Recode emotional patterns using the SPRING™ Method (Speed Breaker to Springboard)
Step into a conscious leadership identity that flows into parenting, relationships, and work
It’s neuroscience.
It’s metacognition.
It’s the invisible engine behind how you show up.
Story Intelligence
Children don’t learn from lectures.
They learn from language that enters the nervous system.
Story Intelligence™ uses layered, metaphor-rich stories that embed:
Mindsets of resilience and resourcefulness
Beliefs of self-worth and trust
Values that form the foundation of future identity
It’s based on narrative psychology, Milton Erickson’s nested loops, and culturally relevant storytelling—designed to shape belief at the deepest neurological level.
You don’t need a new manual for motherhood.
You need a new mirror.
And what you see in that mirror determines what your child will believe about love, success, failure, and who they are becoming.
Let’s shape that future—one conversation at a time.